If You Or Someone You Know Is In An Abusive Relationship
Reach out and connect with a community-based program. People care and are there to help.
What Are My Options?
You are facing some very difficult decisions regarding the abusive behavior in your life. The decisions are much more complex than simply leaving the abuser or continuing the relationship. You may be considering your financial resources, religious beliefs, ability to access community resources, and the promises the abusive person has made to you. You do not have to navigate these decisions alone. Here are some options you could consider:
- Contact a local community-based domestic violence program.
- You can expect to be listened to and supported. Community based advocacy programs can also assist with concerns about your children and provide shelter, legal advocacy, referrals to medical care, and crisis intervention.
- Enter a free community-based domestic violence shelter that will assist in providing safety for you and your children.
- Apply for a civil protection order. The paperwork is available at your local clerk’s office or an advocate can assist you with this process.
- Report the abuse to law enforcement. You case may be assigned to a victim witness coordinator who will assist you with resources.
How To Help Someone Who Is Being Abused
If you think a friend, family member, neighbor, or co-worker is being abused – talk to them about it. Just knowing that someone cares enough to ask about the abuse can break through the wall of isolation that can exist around anyone who is in an abusive relationship. Here are some suggestions to consider:
- Listen, without judging. Everyone is the expert on their own life.
- Provide support, not advice. Focus on their strengths and skills.
- Let them make their own choices.
- Help connect them with resources. Options can help someone regain their sense of empowerment.
- Suggest working with an advocate to enhance safety strategies for them and their children.
- Respect their wishes. Give them control over the next steps
- Honor their reality. A person’s gender, sexuality, ethnicity, culture, ability, age, and religion affect their experience.